Thursday, July 5, 2012

Judgmental Parents

One of my biggest pet peeves is folks that are always passing judgment on others.  Yes, we all have an opinion on how someone behaves and yes, we all have our thoughts on how someone dresses.  But it’s also up to us to determine whether to voice these opinions or not.   As they say, with age comes wisdom.  I honestly try my darndest not to judge people.  Of course thoughts may come into my head but I try to hold back the judgmental words that would have normally come out of my mouth years ago.  Because the reality is we have no idea what’s going on with someone that may explain why they behave the way that they do.  As mothers, we tend to be the BIGGEST judge and jury….fathers too! 
Caribbean parents are even worse, “how she let she child go out on di street looking like dat?”….or “dat child doh have no behavior, di mother spoiling she rotten!”  What folks don’t know is that the mother dresses the child down to the tee in the morning but as the day progresses, children play and get dirty.  That other child, who is so spoiled, is just really hard headed!  No matter how much mom or dad talks and punishes that child, he/she is a child and will test the waters.  Parenthood does NOT come with a manual people! A lot of us are hitting the ground running and learning as we go.  We have a saying in the islands…”don’t put your mouth on other people’s children because you never know how yours will turn out”.   In most cases, the thing that you’re ready to judge someone about could be the very thing you can help them rectify with a suggestion.  Or, just mind your business!  I just think sometimes we are too hard on other parents and I think a lot of veteran moms and dads FORGET what they went through when they had to raise their own children.  Or, some parents are at the cutesy stage where they’re children are infants which leaves them completely ignorant to the terrible twos and treacherous three stages.  Those that don’t have children will also have an opinion which is fine, as long as their opinion comes with a solution.  So the next time you’re pressed to judge another parent, please, think twice.
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.

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